How to Stop a Divorce
admin on Feb 16th 2009
It is said that marriages are made in heaven! Then why we are observing so many divorce cases? Why every second marriage breaks? Why people are filing for divorce on such trifle issues like bad dress sense, snoring, bad eating habits, not entertaining phone calls etc.?
Our societies are becoming intolerant. People do not tolerate even small things. Everybody has become egoist. People have become self-centred. People do not have time for each other. They have become too busy to see each other. With more economic freedom, each partner does not need the other for meeting financial needs. Our capitalist society has also contributed to this trend. Capitalism advocates individualism. So people become self-centred. They keep satisfying their own needs and do not think about needs of other people. This leads to conflicts when the other person wants something from the first person and this person is busy satisfying his or her own needs and neglects needs of the other person.
Married couple must fulfil needs of each other. Only then their marriage can be successful. They must sacrifice their own needs to fulfil needs of their partners. But this is not happening. That is why divorce rates are going higher and higher.
How a divorce can be stopped? You need first to think about how a marriage can keep going strong even after a long time. A marriage is successful only when both partners realize the importance of their marriage and a strong commitment to make it work. When any of the two partners starts neglecting the commitment then the marriage will lead to divorce. For some reason if the marriage is leading towards a divorce then to stop it remedial actions need to be taken. A marriage counselling can be arranged. Partners should be made to realize that there are better options available than a straight divorce. The negative aspects of divorce should also be highlighted like effect of a divorce on their children etc. The partner who is making unreasonable demands from the other partner should be counselled to make him or her realize that they are doing something terribly wrong with their partner. If the same thing which they are doing can be targeted towards them; then if they will accept it?
Divorce is never the right solution for a non functioning marriage. The best solution is to stop this divorce. Instead of wasting one’s time on doing negative things; he should be taught to do positive things and how the positive things will do good for themselves. The satisfaction you get when you do good to others can never be compared with the kind of satisfaction you get when you fulfil your own desires.
When people start to realize how important it is to oblige their commitments; they become shameful for the bad things and neglect they did to their commitments. When this happens then you are sure that the divorce has been stopped. The marriage will then last till any of the partner becomes dead.
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